In our life we are given limited f*cks to spend. But the world constantly bombards you with messages to give f*cks about everything, because you know, that’s how the world runs. Choosing is the key. Having a value system that drives you in the right freaking direction every time you are pressurised to give a f*ck is what you should learn. Ladies and Gentlemen, wait no more, because The subtle art of not giving a f*ck by Mark Manson is the quintessence of what you are looking for. It is like your friend that will pinch you, yes – in a way that it hurts, to wake you up from the dream of denial and self-victimisation.
The subtle art of not giving a f*ck by Mark Manson Review
This is indeed one of the most blatant and realistic book I have read. This self help book is profane and smutty with the usage of a four letter word that most elders told you to refrain from. Well, guess what, that’s life. It’s neither a bed of roses nor has unicorns. And even if it does sometimes, roses have thorns and unicorns, a reality check – they don’t exist.
In the book Mark tells us how we have limited f*cks to give and we have to use these with great care. Giving a f*ck about futile things is bad to your mental health, if you get attached to fake and shallow you will miss the important and immediate. The cosmetics of giving a f*ck about everything is although beautiful and gives you a carpe diem feel but when the reality rain falls and washes away the makeup, your unpreparedness to accept it might leave you astound and not in a good way.
“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience”
The subtle art of not giving a f*ck by Mark Manson, this book has a very smooth flow. The good parts are so many that I actually feel like writing the whole book here. In chapter 3, Mark mentions about his story too which makes the connection with his message more plausible. His traumatic childhood had drug addiction, divorce of his parents, expelled from school, no friends, which I think pretty traumatic for a 12 year old.
There are two keynotes which I really liked the most in the book
First is the Entitlement which according to Mark is a failed strategy. A sense of entitlement leads to a person feeling to be treated with a special treatment.
“I’m awesome and the rest of you all suck, so I deserve special treatment.
I suck and the rest of you are awesome, so I deserve special treatment.”
The problem with entitlement, which the present generation go berserk about is that it makes them skip the hard turmoil that one has to go through to achieve success. Remember there is no shortcut to success. People are under huge *imaginary* peer pressure to match up with their friends who are more successful, have more money and more crap to do whatever they like. And the answer to the problem of entitlement is to accept the mundane truth of life that this is life and it’s full of problems and not dealing/accepting is a pathway to just another problem.
Second best thing about the book is the pathway to choosing your value system. You cannot control every situation but you can always choose a metric via which to react to it. This metric involves asking a lot of ‘WHYs’ in regards to the situation, which obviously is a tough task. Choosing a poor metric like Pleasure, Material Success, Always being right, Staying positive etc might make you emotionally dysfunctional where as choosing a good value like honesty, standing up for oneself, self respect, charity, humility etc will keep our f*cks limited to things that matter.
By the time you will complete the book, you will have a sensation of a positive vibes around you with a tingling in your funny bone. The perspective of life that Mark has portrayed to us through this book is pretty insightful. One should definitely read this book or whatever. I don’t really give a f*ck.
Recommended to :
Anyone who wants to live a reality. Also to people with zodiacs Taurus, Gemini, cancer and Aries because according to anonymous sources they are the most susceptible to depression.
About the Author :
Mark Manson is a blogger, entrepreneur and author. He specialises in writing personal development advice that doesn’t suck. His website MarkManson.net is read by over 2 million people each month. He lives in New York City.